Co-Parenting During the Summer
- Katherine Elder, PhD, Licensed Psychologist
- Jul 12, 2024
- 5 min read

Is there anything better than summer? Besides sunshine and vacations, the season offers opportunities to spend time with family. It can, however, pose a logistical challenge for co-parents.
When school schedules are disrupted and routines are interrupted, child custody arrangements can feel like a high-wire act. In this blog post, you will learn how to use these summer months to focus on what matters most: your children's happiness and well-being.
The Challenges of Summer Co-Parenting
During the summer, co-parents can face the following challenges:
Schedule disagreements. You may struggle to find a balance between your own schedule and your co-parent's. There may be changes in summer work schedules, vacation plans, and activities to coordinate.
Different parenting styles. It is possible for even amicable co-parents to have different ideas about how to structure their children's summer vacations. For example, relaxation might be emphasized by one parent while enrichment activities might be emphasized by the other.
Communication breakdowns. There is a high likelihood of miscommunication when schedules are fluid. As such, during the summer, it is even more important to communicate clearly and consistently.
Financial strain. The cost of summer camps, vacations, and additional childcare can add further stress to a budget that is already stretched thin.
After identifying the challenges, let's look at some effective strategies for overcoming them.
It's All About Communication
Effective co-parenting relies on clear and consistent communication, especially during the unstructured summer months. Ensure that you and your co-parent schedule regular check-ins to discuss the following:
Schedule swaps. What if one parent wants to take a longer vacation? Is there a need to adjust work schedules? To minimize disruption for your children, discuss potential swaps well in advance.
Activities and camps. Discuss the activities and camps planned for the kids. It is important to discuss any financial considerations openly and come up with a solution that works for both parties.
Medical needs and emergencies. Be sure that both parents are informed about any upcoming medical appointments, medications, and emergency contact information.
Household rules and expectations. The ground rules for screen time, bedtime, and chores should be consistent for both parents.
Use a co-parenting app, such as OurFamilyWizard, or a shared calendar to keep track of schedules and appointments. As a result, miscommunications can be minimized and transparency can be promoted.
Making Memories, Together (or Apart)
In cases where schedules do not perfectly align, ensuring that kids get to spend quality time with both parents is one of the biggest concerns for co-parents. You can make it work in a few ways:
Shared activities. Consider attending a sporting event or going on a family picnic with your co-parent. When you do this, your children see how cooperative and united you are, regardless of whether you are romantically involved.
Themed weeks. Each parent should focus on a different activity during themed weeks. You could have a "Nature Week" with hikes and camping, and an "Arts & Crafts Week."
Respecting traditions. Does your child look forward to grandma's annual pool party? No matter with whom they're spending time, ensure they have the chance to enjoy these traditions.
Tech-powered connection. Keep in touch with the kids during the week by using video calls and messaging apps. It is also possible to bridge the physical gap by scheduling bedtime stories or virtual game nights.
Individual time. The value of quality time spent with each parent is important for children. Give them the opportunity to pursue their interests and form unique bonds.
Prioritizing Your Child's Needs
Keep in mind that the goal is to provide your children with a positive and supportive summer experience. The following tips will help you keep their well-being in mind:
Minimize conflicts. Parental tension has a significant impact on children. Make sure your children are not caught up in your arguments or disagreements with your co-parent. Whenever possible, maintain civility and discuss disagreements privately.
Respecting routines. Even though summer offers a lot of flexibility, a certain level of routine is essential for children's well-being. Maintain a consistent routine for sleep, mealtimes, and expectations between your household and that of your co-parent.
Promote positive communication. Communicate openly and honestly with both parents with your children. Allow them to freely express their feelings and experiences in a safe environment.
Celebrate milestones. Birthdays, graduations, and other special occasions are often celebrated during the summer months. Celebrating these milestones together can be a lot of fun, even if it requires coordinating schedules.
The power of two. If possible, try to involve both parents in activities. In addition to creating lasting memories, picnics in the park, movie nights, or local community events can demonstrate a united front.
Choose your battles. Everything doesn't have to be a debate. Focus on issues that directly affect the children's welfare when picking your battles.
Bonus Tip: You might want to consider joint parenting classes or workshops. Conflict resolution and effective co-parenting communication can be greatly enhanced by these tools.
Dealing with the Unexpected
Summer can throw curveballs at you. It is possible for a child to fall ill, for plans to fall through, or for unforeseen circumstances to arise. In these situations, here's what you need to do:
Open communication. If there are any changes or issues, keep your co-parent informed. Take the initiative to find solutions and be open to compromises.
Flexibility. Be prepared to adjust schedules if necessary. We all experience unexpected events, and being able to adapt is essential.
Focus on solutions. Rather than blaming, find solutions that prioritize the child's well-being. Find ways to support one another and avoid further disruptions.
How to Build Bridges with Extended Family Members
You will have grandparents, aunts, and uncles who want to spend time with your kids during the summer months. It's easy to navigate their well-meaning plans if you follow these steps:
Establish boundaries. When the kids are with extended family, discuss activities and schedules with your co-parent. Often, this involves restricting screen time, bedtimes, or diets.
Coordinate with grandparents. You should inform your own parents and your co-parent's parents about any planned outings. As a result, confusion will be avoided and everyone will be on the same page.
Embrace teamwork. Support from extended family can be invaluable. When it comes to childcare, transportation, or even planning summer activities, don't be afraid to ask for help.
Remember, You're a Team
While co-parenting can be a complex dance, your goal is to raise healthy and happy children with your partner. My final thoughts are as follows:
Celebrate each other's victories. Recognize your co-parent's efforts to create a good summer experience for the kids. When children are raised in a supportive environment, they feel secure and stable.
Focus on the long term. You will encounter bumps along the way. However, do not lose sight of the bigger picture - the well-being of your children.
Seek support. Take advantage of online resources, co-parenting support groups, and therapists for additional support.
Take care of yourself. It is impossible to pour from an empty cup. Don't forget to take time out for yourself to recharge and relax. After all, a well-rested and happy co-parent is a better one!
Communication, collaboration, and flexibility are the keys to co-parenting during the summer, which is not only manageable but also an opportunity to create lasting memories for your children. Keep in mind that you are not alone on this journey. By working together and understanding each other, you can have a summer filled with fun.
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